Does empathy still exist in society??

Was just reading a writeup about how empathy amongst youngsters in general has graphically been on the decline since the 1980’s and in fact took a drastic downward turn during the 2000’s…and the graph continues to have a decreasing linearity……
Got me thinking…it really is true and the evidence is all around us….
I don’t believe there has ever been an era when youngsters have not disagreed or been at loggerheads with their peers but at one point there still existed that polite and subdued attitude towards ones elders… A silent acceptance of their desires or commands out of sheer respect for their stature and age even if one wanted to vehemently disagree with every word that poured out of the older’s mouth…..
At one point children were scared of offending or defying their parents, aunts , uncles, teachers , gurus…they held them if not on a pedestal, at least in a place where reverence and respect garnered a politeness and subjudication from the youth….
We were born in that era…where parents were to be listened to and understood as using experience and love as the force behind their guidance , scolding, commanding and often even whipping their way through the formative years of their kids…
I don’t remember ever answering back rudely, yelling, snubbing or insulting my adults…yes of course we did argue to get a point across, give our own ideas and thoughts a voice, disagree healthily on many accounts even throw tantrums when we were young but I don’t think I ever saw my parents hurting from inside or shedding a heart wrenching tear because of caustic words I might have flung at them in my arrogance!!!
However, today we are faced with a know-it-all generation who no doubt are smarter than us at the same age because of the kind of education we have given them as well the global exposure they have received from travel, technology, discussion and co-deliberation… They have insight, experience beyond their years, ideologies, fanaticisms and fantasies of which we are proud and give fuel to….allow them to spread their wings and grow beyond what we could ever have imagined as we trudged through a slower paced, less-driven life with fewer expectations, demands or amenities….
This in fact is the cause of the difference in our thought process and that of our kids today…they cannot understand why we hold back, are more wary and tremulous, traditional and fearing, afraid even maybe….
However I guess every subsequent generation thinks the same way about the one before them but I know for sure that we belonged to the bygone era where we chose to listen and not crush….
Today I see anger, short tempers, arrogance, smugness, rudeness , attitude, disrespect, impatience and venomous tongues all around me…
Today itself I witnessed a young girl yell at a mall attendant who tried to tell her that carrying more than 5 articles to the trying room is against the rules…her outburst almost had the attendant in tears and when a middle aged lady intervened to suggest to the girl that the attendant was just doing her job she was the receiver of a further barrage of expletives and was told without mincing words, TO MIND HER OWN BUSINESS!!
If such a trivial matter can garner reactions this extreme I wondered how they would react to the bigger issues in life as I shook my head in shame and dismay!!!
You only have to suggest your idea or speak of your experience to a youngster today to invoke a reaction that makes you bite your tongue in shock!!!
You simply have to express a thought or opinion to be curtly dismissed and maybe told that you have the most ludicrous suggestions possible even if you have learnt it over years of dealing with that particular scenario…
Ask the teacher who attempts to control a classroom full of teenagers, the college professor who tries to Instill morals into the smug young adults who simply swear back at him for his feeble attempts…
I have heard boys use profane language in front of parents and gurus, ….offensive language both verbal and body in front is the fairer sex…. I have seen them scream and shout at distressed parents before storming out of the house…. I have seen them throw punches at older people, push them out of the way to claim a seat in public places, laugh at the less fortunate or elderly, tease the opposite sex, touch and speak inappropriations in public… I have seen a mother tear up at the insults thrown at her by her grown children…I have seen fathers despair when his boys don’t understand that his strictness or lack of excessive pampering was out of sheer love and the desire to prepare the kids for hardships ahead as they went out on their own into the world…..
Lack of empathy may be putting it politely…I feel it’s almost turning into a lack of caring a shit for anyone and everyone other than themselves!!!!
I guess we should be grateful for small mercies if our children have grown up to have the even the slightest semblance of decency and humility in today’s world and count our blessings!!!!
Thank you God!!! I am truly blessed!!!

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5 thoughts on “Does empathy still exist in society??

  1. Reblogged this on rionabalgobind and commented:
    THIS was an amazing read!!!
    I’m a ‘youngster’… One who knows exactly what she wants and goes out and gets it!!! Often we forget who, how, when we may hurt, trample, offend others with our attitudes and utterances whilst trying to achieve our goals or as you said, just to get a point across!!!
    EVERY YOUNGSTER SHOULD READ THIS… It definitely jolted me into thinking and rethinking some of my recent actions & reactions!!!
    Go read this people!!!
    Parineeti Chopra fans please read, share and heed!!!

    Like

  2. THIS was an amazing read!!!
    I’m a ‘youngster’… One who knows exactly what she wants and goes out and gets it!!! Often we forget who, how, when we may hurt, trample, offend others with our attitudes and utterances whilst trying to achieve our goals or as you said, just to get a point across!!!
    EVERY YOUNGSTER SHOULD READ THIS… It definitely jolted me into thinking and rethinking some of my recent actions & reactions!!!
    Go read this people!!!
    Parineeti Chopra fans please read, share and heed!!!

    Like

  3. A well written and thought provoking piece while playing on an individual’s moral compass…as we grow old we look back with sometimes pride and shame of the way we have behaved and the way our elders have behaved towards us. It is very true that life is a journey – it’s how we choose to travel on that journey that matters most, this piece asks us just that.

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